Have you ever wondered why we worry and how we can help our children learn to deal with this? The impact of anxiety on relationships, school attendance and quality of life is often one of the reasons we are asked to help children, teens and young adults. Below is a summary of the key things that we aim to teach early on in our sessions.
Key things to understand about worrying
Feeling worried or anxious is a natural, in-built response when we doubt that we have the resources to cope with the situation facing us.
Many things can make us feel like this – they don’t always have to be huge life events or disasters. We are all different and have had different life experiences. Because of this, different things will make us doubt our ability to cope.
Shock is a medical term we use but it is commonly known by many other names including anxiety, stress, worrying and others.
Children and adults can experience a wide range of different Shock reactions. Some of us may withdraw and keep things in, others can become irritable or aggressive. Many people experience aches, pains or uncomfortable feelings in different places in their bodies.
Shock has a useful purpose. Shock acts as a warning sign. You need to know what your Shock signs are and then do something about it. The Emotional Logic method address this by using the phrase, ‘Find a safe place, review your resources and begin to make a plan’.
The three safe places we explore in more detail are safe people, safe places/activities or a safe state of mind.
The reason we go to a safe place is to be in a calmer state of mind where we can think clearly and make a plan to address the situation. You must remember to make a plan when you are in your safe place otherwise nothing will change and you will soon be feeling those Shock feelings again!
Other important things to remember
We all feel like we cannot cope at times. There is nothing shameful about this. It is actually part of the Healthy Adjustment Process when we need to address challenges, changes and disappointments in life.
Everyone experiences Shock sometimes, no matter how old, rich, successful or emotionally resilient we are. Just ask any of our Emotional Logic Coaches and you will find that even the ‘experts’ feel Shock and need to remember these things!
Remember - we can model a safe and effective response to Shock to our friends and family.
In our latest school survey, 88.6% of those who replied reported that the children we worked with improved their ability to manage their anxiety more effectively and 90% said they had increased in confidence!
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